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  1. Amy Knowles

    Yes, I completely agree with everything you said there. It’s very important to have someone who understands your situation. Someone who is ready to stick with you even if your health condition affects their own personal activities. I think I’m happy that I have someone like that. Lol. And as for social media, it is getting more popular every day. Just as you said, it has it’s good side and a bad side as well. One should be extremely careful with it.

    • Hi Amy,

      First, I ‘m so glad that you have someone who understands your situation. As I get to know more about the struggles of chronic pain sufferers and survivors, I also have come to an understanding of the devastating impact such a condition can have on self esteem. It’s not knowing from day to day how they are going to feel that can add stress and a feeling of helplessness. It’s easy to see how they may think that social media can be the answer to a more connected and empowering life. This may well be true, but one needs to proceed with caution.

  2. R.F.

    I, unfortunately, have more experience in this area than I would like. I have learned to deal with my Mother’s chronic pain for years, which in turn helped me deal with my husband’s pain after an accident prior to our divorce. However, I failed to see the impact my own pain had. All your advice is spot on. Right down to recognizing that the term, “I’m fine” usually signals that we are just tired of talking about it but don’t really feel fantastic. It never helps the situation to try and talk anyone out of their pain. I was always so concerned about his pain that I never talked about mine so much so that I silenced it out of existence to everyone else around me and everyone thought I was actually fine when that was the furthest thing from the truth. Between that and his chronic pain from the accident, it was a disaster waiting to happen. It forever changed our lives. Don’t hide. Having supportive people around you is far healthier than trying to pretend you are okay; always. I do not use and greatly dislike Facebook, which is apparently a no-no these days especially with an online business but I just feel like it is unhealthy, I can only agree with your research and statement about it one hundred percent. We are so busy comparing ourselves to everyone else and trying to post the perfect image of a good life that I think we stop actually living our life and spend all our time creating the image of it. None of us need that. This is an excellent post.

    • I thank you for your heart felt response. Your experience and the willingness to tell your story is of great help to others dealing with a loved one’s chronic pain, but failing to see what impact their own pain has. As you point out, don’t hide. Indeed “having supportive people around you is far healthier than trying to pretend you are okay”. I also believe that one way to break out of a negative social environment and build your self-esteem is to stop comparing yourself with others. It’s far better to live your life instead of creating some unrealistic image of what it should be.

  3. ProlificAshley

    This article is sure something that I can relate to. I have a habit of keeping to myself whenever I feel down. This usually ends up being a bad idea because it only worsens the pain. But with this article, the writer has helped me see the wisdom of hanging out with friends and family for support. I can now live a happy life. Thanks

    • Hi Ashley,
      It’s tempting to avoid people when you’re in pain. You just want to be left alone, right. As long as you make sure that you keep away from people who give out negative vibes, then opening up to those that can be a strong support system can be a healthy thing to do.

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