How to Cope With Chronic Back Pain–Successful MindSet
Eliminating self-destructive thoughts and replacing them with new and positive ones is essential if one is to learn how to cope with chronic back pain. Some so called “experts” like to use the word empowerment to explain how those who live with daily pain can handle their situation. They speak in generalities about the power of positive thinking. Well thank you very much, but that isn’t helpful in teaching people how to cope with chronic back pain.
Listen to Help, Not Reinvent
I ran into an old friend some months ago, but he wasn’t in the mood to celebrate. He was still searching for a job. We spent more than an hour talking in an underground garage.
“God damn it, I’m always tired,” said my friend. “It’s weary not being a provider. It drains you. It makes me hate Sundays. That’s the worst part of it.”
Let me tell you a story of how I learned to help my mother live with back pain.
For the last couple of years I’ve come face to face with what some call ‘’labor force non-participants.” They are often spoken of in terms of statistics. Well, I’ve gotten close enough to smell their cigarette breath and see their teary eyes. In short, I made a real connection. Making an honest effort to understand someone’s problem is a big deal in learning to communicate effectively and positively with a loved one who has to live with back pain—more about that soon. For now, here’s the story.
I was doing some research at a job-training center when I first heard him.
“ I hate this God damn online shit!” he shouted. “ I work with my hands. Why do I need this computer crap?”
Most people have a hard time figuring out the best treatment for their back pain. I want you to take a step back and think about something. Imagine having a job where you’re a manager at an organization where there’s a lot of back biting and bad-mouthing among individuals. What would you do? According to organization management expert Chris Argyris, you have two choices:
You can reduce the behavior by telling everyone to cool it.
You can find out the underlying cause of the behavior and address it.